Gaydar

Most gay men say they can spot a gay man a mile off; Gaydar being their usual method. Do gay men really have gaydar? Is it the way the other man walks or talks? Is it the way he smells sending your senses reeling? Maybe it is a look he gives you as you walk down the street or while drinking at a bar? Whatever it is most gay men say they have it. Personally for me it is the way they hold themselves, their eyes looking you up and down.

I often see men watch me and give me the eyes over as I walk through town. It is not my clothes, for usually I am in work clothes or my drivers uniform. But I can see their eyes and they often meet and you can see an attraction. These are the guys looking for action but not a relationship. They want sex not love. I am all for sex but I like passion with sex and guys just looking for sex, have no passion in them. They are just sexual animals looking to relieve themselves. They are usually young guys with a sex drive beyound their capacity to satisfy, balls bursting for relief and they don't care how or where. As you get older and more mature, you look for something other than a quick suck or fuck, something that has more of a meaning.

So next time your eyes meet on some great looking guy in the street or at a bar, think of what you are really looking for. Are you looking for sex or passion?

Friends

Being a gay man is not easy. The world is against you 100%, even family can disown you. That is why gay friends are so important. They provide the shoulder to cry on when times are tough, people to celebrate with when it is your birthday, or you have a chieved the impossible. They are your sounding board when a relationship is teetering on the brink. They are the voice of reason.

Friends are forever, boy friends come and go. Well maybe some boy friends stay and become lifelong partners but this is few and far between as gay relationships are known for their brevity. But if you look at your friends, you will find you have 2 or 3 really good friends you know you can count on 24 hours a day. These are your lifeline, so don't ever lose them.